Problem:
I was very much impressed by the variety of articles on personality development and it is giving the right direction for so many people in distress in life, this is really a guiding path for many.
About myself : I am Vinod, 3x Years old and I married my wife Suman 3x years in 2002 at that time I was 2x and she was 2x years old, whom I had loved for 12 years. Ours was a very happy married life and by the Grace of God, we were blessed with our son Nitin. Slowly my wife started leaning towards her parents. In 200x she got a good job and started saying that she wanted to lead an independent life and with a slight argument left with my one year old son without telling me and said not to contact or call or try to meet her, in due course of time she did not attend my phone calls by telling me not to call her,and even now after x years she is still angry with me, I tried many times to reach her but she is not reciprocating. Kindly help me in somehow getting united with my wife and son as I keep thinking about my wife them, i have missed many travel opportunities to abroad as once I had felt the pain of separation and could not tolerate it further and came back to India and even now it is bothering me. Please suggest some solution so that I can come out of this suffering and perform better in my Professional and Personal life. In the meantime please suggest how to make my wife reciprocate for our reunion as a good husband and wife and family.
Vinod
Dated: 07.02.2011
(Names and identity changed)
Solution:
Friend, you suffered a lot due to this separation and sincerely wish you are united with your family soon.
Actually it is very difficult to provide a solution to such problems after listening to one side of the problem. Your email shows that you love your family very much. Even after the passing of so many years you have not married with another female and hoping that your wife understands your feelings to unite again.
Your line of action is to influence your wife and you are failing. Still this is the only solution under present circumstances. You may not be trying well.
1. Put more passion in your love and show it to your wife again and again, by phone, SMS and mail. It is difficult for a wife to resist passionate love that is continuous.
2. You can also convey your feelings through a reliable person whom your wife also knows.
3. After happy married life and years of love if your wife suddenly decided to abandon you, it may be due to some solid reason. Communication and talking is the only solution. You may have to compromise on a certain habit of yours.
4. Think how you can be more useful to her. Be practical and understand that it is usefulness that strengthens the bond of marriage.
